This is something that most parents have to deal with when it comes to children, and lately I am having to have the kids in my class learn and understand the concept of sharing. The truth is that there are many people that don’t like to share and it starts as children and the environment they grow up in. I personally believe that everyone should learn how to share and it is important to get children involved in the concept as young and possible so that it grows over time.
There are so many resources out there that parents can use that give them insight on how children learn to share and how to aid the process. Children are notorious at not sharing what they have whether it is food or toys. As normal as it may seem, we should all want children to interact and share with their friends at the park or their brothers and sisters.
My kids are only just now starting to learn the ins and outs of sharing and I have almost gotten used to the fighting and whining that comes with kids having to share and my kids are no different. I believe that kids build a strong bond with one another by sharing and it is also a form of affection that strengthens bonds. There are some times when I really want to get in between them and say something, but I believe it is important –and many studies support me in this belief – that children should not be punished when they do not want to share whatever they have. I find that forcing them to do so only makes them want to share even less. No one wants a stingy child or adult and it is something I am working hard to avoid.
Then there is the issue that young children definitely are not even sure of what sharing actually is and since they don’t understand this concept, it is really useless trying to get them to do what you want them to do. If you find that your children are not likely to share, you should find the emotions that are involved with this decision and then work from there. When they are playing with other kids, for example, have them take turns on the swings, hitting baseballs with the bat, or choosing what is for lunch. These are actually small ways in which kids will start to learn what sharing is and how it may even make them feel better.
Kids really learn how to share by watching their parents and other adults around them. How can you expect your children to share if you don’t practice it as well? When I am eating small foods, I always share with my kids and then tell them how it pleases me to do so. This is considered one of the building blocks to sharing and will spread to your kids. Sometimes, all it takes are small steps to move children into the right direction.